Toxic people aren’t welcome.
Time is precious and it should never be wasted on things that don’t add value to your life. You get to a certain age where you start to really understand what kind of activities and people you really shouldn’t be wasting your time on – most importantly the people. You shouldn’t have to be wasting your time getting emotionally invested in toxic men. You don’t need that in your life at all. Toxic men will only bring you unnecessary stress, disappointment, pain, and heartache.
Free yourself from those negative feelings and just make it a point to steer clear of toxic men altogether. How do you do that? Well, here are the 13 golden rules that you should definitely follow:
1. Don’t entertain a man who pushes you to have sex after just one date.
Sex shouldn’t be the focal point of a relationship and he shouldn’t be pushing it on you if you’re not comfortable with it. He’s only after the physical pleasure that you can give him, and he’s really not worth your time or effort.
2. Don’t waste time chasing after a man who doesn’t respond to three straight text messages.
A true gentleman would always reply to you as soon as possible. Anyone who thinks that it’s cool to keep you waiting for a reply is an immature little dweeb. Mature men understand the importance of being able to give a response in a speedy and punctual manner.
3. Don’t waste time chasing after a man who won’t chase after you.
You should only be willing to go after a man who is actually willing to allow himself to become vulnerable towards you. If he continuously keeps on acting closed off and disinterested despite all of your efforts, then you should just cut your losses and find someone else to fawn over.
4. Don’t tolerate a man who willingly insults and demeans women.
There are just too many douchebags in the world and you really don’t deserve to be with them. You should only be allotting your time for true gentlemen who would know how to take care of you and treat you well.
5. Don’t fall victim to the man who makes you believe that you’re just acting crazy.
You’re not crazy. You are a perfectly rational human being who has lots of complex thoughts and ideas. If your man is too stupid or is too dismissive to actually give you the attention that you need, he’s really not worth being with. Find yourself a man who pays attention to whatever it is you have to say.
6. Don’t settle for a man who doesn’t have a life outside of your relationship.
Even though you’re in a real relationship together, he should still be man enough to have a life of his own outside of the relationship. If he makes your relationship his entire life, then he’s probably a loser and he’s acting too needy and dependent on you.
7. Don’t talk to a man who never apologizes.
There’s no point in entertaining a man who is too proud to say sorry. You are going to get so frustrated whenever he screws up because he is never going to own up to it. He would be too immature to have a real conversation with. He will always find a way to pin the blame on you.
8. Don’t further entertain a man who doesn’t make an effort to be nice to your friends and family.
Your friends and family are important to you. They are there for you whenever you need them. They love you even during your most unlovable moments. They would help pick you up whenever you stumble. You should never have to tolerate a man in your life who doesn’t acknowledge the importance of your friends and family.
9. Don’t fall in love with someone who doesn’t understand what respect means.
Respect is nonnegotiable. It should always be present at all times in whatever situation you both might be in. There is absolutely no excuse for a man to act disrespectful towards you. If he doesn’t show you respect, he’s not a man worth making time for.
10. Don’t agree to date a man who isn’t humble enough to own up to his shortcomings.
Be with a man who is actually humble enough to acknowledge that he is only human. You don’t want to be with someone who talks a big game but fails to back it up with his actions. You should only be with someone who actually understands his limitations and his weaknesses.
11. Don’t ever give a man third, fourth, or fifth chances.
A second chance is relatively acceptable. Everyone screws up after all. We are all only human and we’re bound to have our personal imperfections and shortcomings. But it’s a completely different story if he’s constantly screwing up and committing the same mistakes over and over again. A true mature man needs only one mistake to learn from.
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