Have you ever been in a toxic relationship?
We’ve all heard of and are very familiar with the cases of victims in a toxic relationship being unaware of their status as victims. They persist in their toxic relationships without really knowing that their relationship is toxic; that they are being victimized by an abusive and manipulative individual. We are all very much familiar with that narrative.
But not many of us realize that there are also plenty of toxic people, the victimizers in relationships, who are unaware that they are being toxic. There are just so many people who get lost through the forests of love and they fail to recognize that they bring the toxicity to the relationships that they’re in. This is actually a fairly common phenomenon. Remember that a lot of toxic people don’t necessarily go into relationships with the intention of being toxic. Being toxic is just a symptom of other character traits that they find to be innate within them. They don’t realize that they are being toxic until they are called out on it.
That is why if you ever find yourself in a loving relationship with someone, you must always make it a point to maintain a sense of self-awareness for the sake of your partner. You never know that you might be the one who is bringing toxicity into the relationship. You never know that you might be the one who is manipulating and abusing your partner because you might think of it to be normal behavior. You must always make sure to keep yourself accountable to your actions. You have to be mindful of how your daily habits impact your relationship and your partner as well.
Remember that your character is primarily shaped by your habits – your daily routines. If you make it a point to always practice positive habits that add value to your relationship, then you essentially minimize the chances of you being a toxic partner. But if you’re lost and you feel like you need some help with trying to figure out what those good habits look like, then this article is for you. Here are 11 habits to practice to keep you from being a toxic partner in a relationship:
1. Smile as much as possible.
You would be surprised at just how uplifting and therapeutic smiling could be. If you make it a point to smile as often as you can, then it becomes infectious. You unknowingly start to spread happiness to the people around you.
2. Never fail to show your gratitude for your partner.
Gratitude is always important in a relationship and there is never really enough of it. Whenever your partner does something nice for you, then you should know that a “thank you” from you could go a really long way.
3. Refrain from non-value adding conversations.
Don’t bring any unwanted toxicity into your life and in your relationships by making sure that you steer clear of toxic conversations. Don’t engage in gossip or toilet talk just to fit in. Those are toxic conversations that shouldn’t have a place in your life.
4. Make sure you don’t forget to take care of yourself.
If you forget to take care of yourself, you risk allowing yourself to become a bitter and toxic individual. If you want to be a happy person with a positive disposition, then you have to make sure to take care of yourself.
5. Do at least one act of genuine kindness every day.
One of the best things that you can do to get rid of toxicity in your life is to always be conscious of being kind. If you do one act of kindness each day, you will find it almost natural to just espouse kindness for the rest of your life.
6. Laugh as much and as often as you can.
Laughter is just as therapeutic as a smile. Welcome all of those happy hormones into your life by maintaining a healthy sense of humor as much and as often as possible.
7. Find the good in every situation that you’re in.
No situation could ever trump a positive outlook. Even if you find yourself in a pickle, you can still choose how you look at a situation. If you choose to look at the positive side of things, you are essentially shunning out all semblances of negativity and toxicity.
8. Don’t understate the value of the little things.
The best things in life are made up of the little things. Don’t disregard the little gestures of love that your partner does for you day in and day out. When you gain a better appreciation for the little things, toxicity won’t walk into your life at all.
9. Stop trying to control everything.
Acknowledge your own humanity and just remember that it’s impossible for you to maintain full control of the situations that you’re in and the people that you’re with. Learn to detach yourself from the things that you can’t control.
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Source: Relationship rules