I see red flags.
It’s not totally unusual for couples to be going through rough patches in their relationship. Most couples know what they sign up for when they fall in love with one another. They understand that when they fall in love and get into relationships, it’s not always going to be easy. They understand that they’re going to have to be brave and resilient if they want to fight for their love until the end. So it’s not a surprise if couples can go through some difficult stretches while still maintaining their love and commitment for one another.
While typically, couples don’t have to worry about the fact that their relationships aren’t perfect, that doesn’t mean that they should be taking their problems lightly. If you find that things aren’t okay in your relationship, you really need to act on this knowledge. You have to understand that issues and problems in a relationship arise for a reason, and they won’t go away if you simply ignore them. Understandably, you would be hesitant to really delve deeper into your problems because you might not like what you end up finding. But it’s still something that you have to do no matter how terrifying it may be for you to do so.
There is a possibility that if you actually take a cold hard look at your relationship, you might see that there are just some problems and issues that can’t be fixed. As unfortunate as it might be, this is a prevalent truth for a lot of couples. And if you find that there are indeed some irreconcilable issues in your relationship, then you have to make a serious decision. You have to reassess the relationship as a whole before you move forward in life – whether in love or not.
It wouldn’t be wise to leave a relationship just because things are getting difficult. But it also gets to a point where the both of you might just be wasting your time with one another; trying to build on a relationship that just isn’t meant to work out at all. When that happens, you just have to be able to muster up the courage necessary to cut your losses. Stop wasting each other’s time by forcing a relationship that has no chance of surviving. It’s a difficult thought to entertain and an even more challenging discussion to have with each other. But if you are mature enough, you would understand that these difficulties are indeed necessary.
But how do you know for sure if you seriously need to be worried about the state of your relationship? How would you know if the problems aren’t actually a serious cause for concern? How do you know when it’s time for you to be thinking about moving on from one another? That’s actually what a lot of people find most difficult in relationships. And if you’re one of those people, then you can always refer to this article. Here are 7 signs that you seriously need to rethink your relationship:
1. You don’t see eye to eye on the things that you most want out of the relationship and one another.
Your expectations for each other and for the relationship just don’t work out for either of you. You always end up being disappointed with one another because you both fail to meet each other’s needs – physically, spiritually, mentally, or emotionally.
2. You don’t feel comfortable with just being your normal self.
You should always feel comfortable with being your normal self in a relationship. If your romance is actually compelling you to become a person you’re not comfortable with being, then it’s not a healthy love at all.
3. You don’t share similar principles and values.
Compatibility is one of the most important factors to consider in a relationship. If you both have fundamental differences with how you both want to conduct yourselves in life, it can deal a huge blow to your compatibility.
4. Your partner doesn’t open up to you in an emotional capacity.
Openness and honesty in a relationship are always going to be important. If your partner just refuses to let you all the way in on an emotional level, then the relationship is practically doomed.
5. You find it more and more difficult to sustain your attraction every single day.
You keep on struggling to maintain your attraction for your partner, but you find that it takes so much effort every day. You shouldn’t have to be fighting so hard to find reasons to stay in love with your partner.
6. Your plans for the future are just irreconcilable.
You don’t really see eye to eye on the future. You want a long-term relationship, but you both have very different ideas of what a long-term relationship between the both of you would look like.
7. Your instincts are telling you that something just isn’t right.
Just learn to pay attention to your guy. If your subconscious is trying to tell you that something is wrong, then it’s probably because something indeed is terribly wrong. You have to be able to trust your instincts.
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