Take a sex vacation from the classic guy-on-top.
Missionary sex gets a bad rap because it’s the no. 1 position for square heteros. Which, fair! But it’s also a favorite because it’s damn good: There’s lots of eye contact, you can feel your partner’s weight on you, they get inside you nice and deep … so deep … and … sorry, what was I saying? Oh, yes, so please go ahead and keep banging away missionary-style, without shame. And if you do want to spice things up, step up your game with these seven sexy tweaks.
The Pleasing Prop Up
If your partner is on the smaller side or you’re just a fun of extra-deep penetration, there’s a super easy hack you try in standard missionary posish. Prop a pillow under your butt to lift your hips higher on an angle. It’s a subtle shift that changes the sensation dramatically.
The Dirty Dangle
On the flip side, having your partner stand and enter you can sometimes ease off some of the depth of penetration, should you be in a “my-cervix-needs-a-break” kind of mood. Plus, this one is ideal for doin’ it in the kitchen.
The Purring Kitty
In CAT (aka Coital Alignment Technique), he shifts a bit so that his hips are higher than yours. Once he’s inside you, have him lift his hips and grind his pubic bone against your clit. He can circle his hips, rub up and down, or go side-to-side — whatever feels right. Super sexy and intimate, great for long, passionate kisses, and your best shot for having a hands-free orgasm. Meee-ow.
Shoot the Moon
Remember that ye olde wooden Shoot the Moon game? You two should look like that once you’re in position here. Bend your legs up to your chest and have him grab your ankles as he enters you. He can bend your legs, push them together on your chest, spread them apart, push them straight up — the challenge is figuring out exactly the right ways to play you. When at least one of you is groaning incoherently, you have a winner!
The Lock and Load
When you press your legs together in missionary, suddenly every stroke is enhanced. Seriously, it’s like MSG for sex. (And if your man’s on the smaller size in the penile region, this is definitely the position for you — he’ll feel like he’s filling you up and won’t slip out.) This position is also good for the super lazy among us because you can take control without moving: Roll your hips around slowly and you’ll get this amazing slidey friction that will drive you both batshit crazy.
The I Want You, I Need You
According to famous research by Dr. Marta Meana, being hotly desired is what turns women on most. And there’s no better way to see how much a guy desires you than watching him hoist your legs over his shoulders so he can be inside you, like, right now. This twist on missionary also lets him enter you super deep — even deeper if he grabs your hips for leverage — which is pretty much always a good thing.
The Side Winder
This take on missionary is best if your man is (too) generously endowed — he won’t be able to enter you quite as deep. In normal missionary, have him spin about 45 degrees to one side so your bodies form an X and he’s entering you at a sideways angle. From here you get a hot view of his sexy back and ass humping you, and you can tell him just how steamy he looks.