Anyone here in a long-distance relationship?
Everything is going great in your relationship. You and your partner love each other very deeply and you feel like there is no end to your happiness. You are exhibiting all the signs of having a relationship that is going to stand the test of time. But can it stand the test of distance?
All of a sudden, one of you is presented with an opportunity that you just can’t turn down. Perhaps you have been offered a really great job or scholarship in a faraway city and it would be foolish of you to decline for the sake of the relationship. So suddenly, your very stable relationship is presented with a new challenge. Your boat has been rocked and you are trying to make the most out of the situation. You have seen how many couples have perished while being away from one another. You have seen the destructive natures of long term relationships and you are scared. You are frightened that you will turn out just like all those other relationships that tried and failed.
You don’t have to worry just yet. Just keep calm and catch your breath. Just because you’re about to enter a long-distance relationship with someone doesn’t mean that you are doomed for failure. There have been plenty of documented cases of couples who have survived the test of distance in their relationships. So you have to stay positive if you want a chance at overcoming this difficult ordeal. There’s just no sugarcoating it. Long distance relationships are difficult to manage, but they aren’t impossible. Remember that ultimately, you have the choice as to whether or not you want to make this relationship work. You can’t ever forget that you still have full control of your destiny as a couple.
So now, you are faced with a sudden and unexpected change in your relationship. A monkey wrench has been thrown into the dynamics of your romance and you have to do your best to prepare yourself for the repercussions. So when you are both confronted with the news of your new situation, you are both going to have to try your best to prepare for what is to come. If you’re feeling lost in that respect, then you can read on until the end of this article. You have to make sure that you follow a lot of the tips that will be listed on here to improve your chances of coming out of this strenuous ordeal stronger than ever. Here are a few things that you could do to prepare for being in a long-term relationship:
1. Talk about your needs in the relationship.
You have to be upfront with each other about your needs and expectations. You have to get ready for the major changes that are about to take place in your relationship. You have to be clear with each other about what you’ll be needing from one another in spite of the distance. There is no room for ambiguity here if you want things to work out fine.
2. Talk about your commitment to stay loyal to one another.
Is the distance going to do anything to change the standards for loyalty and commitment in the relationship? This is something that you have to agree upon before one of you leaves. You have to discuss if you would both be open to the idea of exploring an open relationship or if you are both going to practice full-on monogamy all the way.
3. Begin to practice being more open to one another.
When you are separated by distance, it will be difficult for you to find the opportunity to engage in open and intimate dialogues with one another. That’s why while you’re in the same place together, it’s important for you to start opening up to one another about your feelings and thoughts.
4. Start planning out how you’re going to keep in touch with one another.
Things can get fairly complicated whenever you are far away from one another. Not only will the lack of physical presence be an issue, but you also have to factor in the complications that come with being in different time zones. So if that’s the case, it’s important for you to really talk about how you’re going to stay in touch with one another. Fortunately, technology makes communication so much easier these days. And if you can schedule a few trips or visits to see each other every once in a while, then that would be so much better.
5. Develop a routine that the both of you can fall back on despite the distance.
Whether it be weekly Skype dates or daily good morning text messages, a routine is always a good thing to keep in a long distance relationship. There is a lot of uncertainty that comes with being in a long distance relationship and so any semblance of stability or consistency should always be encouraged.
6. Be real about your situation.
Face the facts. You’re placed in a difficult situation. And it wouldn’t be wise for either of you to be turning a blind eye to the challenges that you have to face as a couple. Always try to stay positive but also be grounded in reality.
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Source: Relationship rules