Sexologists, intimacy researchers, and more share their best tips.
Here, five completely fabulous sex experts share all the details on their very best sex position recommendations. Because sometimes you need to call in the big guns.
Dr. Ruthie Neustifter, a sex and intimacy researcher from Ontario, Canada:
To get more out of doggy style, Dr. Ruthie recommends using a long towel folded into a strip. “Feed the sash under the receiving partner’s hips so the penetrating partner can grip the ends and pull their bodies together with each thrust, or more easily pull in for a deep grind. Larger lovers, those with stability concerns, and folks who want to improve their rhythm may especially like this,” says Dr. Ruthie. “I also recommend it highly for those who enjoy strap-on sex, as it allows for powerful thrusting while staying closer, reducing the risk of slipping out.”
Missionary (Yes, that’s right)
Emily Morse, Sexologist and Host of the Sex With Emily podcast:
“Missionary gets a bad wrap, but for me it’s one of my favorite sex positions. You can easily mix up missionary by getting creative with leg positions — either moving them wider or closer together, placing a pillow under your butt to shift the angle.” Morse notes it’s also the perfect position to use a toy for bonus clitoral stimulation. Can’t argue with a classic.
The Do What You Need To Do
From the researchers at OMGYes, a site devoted to exploring how women actually find pleasure.
This is most decidedly not a specific position, but ways to make penetration more pleasurable.
1. Move around ’til it feels right. “Angle of penetration and how much ‘grinding’ is happening to the clitoral cluster are more important than body position. Shifting hips up or down (using pillows or edge of a bed) and rotating the pelvis downward and upward are ways a woman can change the angle regardless of body position.”
2. When in doubt, try less of the usual in n’ out: “Being on top or pushing back against a partner who is thrusting but ‘staying inside’ as opposed to going all the way in and all the way out are the key ways a woman can control the amount of ‘grinding.’”
3. Love up your clit: “Adding a palm or fingers or toy to the clitoris during penetration in any position makes it 4x more likely to be orgasmic.”
OMGYes is super informative — go look at it at once. Or better yet, have your partner look at it.
The 68 Sex Position
Tara Struyk, co-founder and editor-in-chief of Kinkly.com:
“The most popular sex position among our readers by far is the 68 Sex Position” says Struyk of this twist on 69 which gives the receiving partner the full focus. The receiving partner lies face up on top of the generous partner, knees bent, legs open, with your butt on their chest. Position pillows around your partner so you can hold some of your weight on your elbows and and forearms. “What makes this position awesome is that it focuses attention on the perineum, a super-sensitive bit of skin between the genitals and anus that often goes neglected,” says Struyk. “We hear from so many people who go totally wild when they’re touched here.”
Elle Chase, Certified Sex Educator and Author of Curvy Girl Sex: 101 Body-Positive Positions to Empower your Sex Life:
“If you have a big belly, this position is for you,” says Chase. “Because the giver is entering from behind, the receiver doesn’t have to move her tummy away from the action, unless it is to make her more comfortable or to readjust where her tummy and thighs meet. The giver can bend the receiver’s legs toward her torso more if his belly is challenging. Also, if the receiver has a prodigious ass, the giver has his hands free to push butt cheeks away from each other, push the outside legs of the receiver up toward her chest to open up the area a bit more, or just enjoy the view and use one of his hands to play with her clit.” Chase also recommends squeezing your PC muscles during, which is kinda just good advice in general.